Children are the delights of Man’s heart and the source of a great joy. They are the ones on whom we pin our hopes. The true Muslim is the one who understands his great responsibility towards his children. The Prophet (pbuh) said:" All of you are guardians and are responsible for whatever you are entrusted with."
We are responsible to secure for our kids a good and solid upbringing, a sound education, and noble characteristics. Children get so amused when we are close to them, play with them, joke with them, tell them words of love and care, and treat them equally. It is important to instill in them good manners such as helping the week, being kind to relatives, respecting the elders and caring for others. A good parenthood is to pay equal attention to their physical, mental and spiritual well-being and spend on them willingly and generously. The Prophet (pbuh) said: “The best money a man can spend is money he spends on his children.”
In Islam, it is not accepted to abandon our children and leave them in poverty and misery. The Prophet (pbuh) said: “It is sin enough for a man to forsake those who are under his care.” It is important to keep our eyes open as far as our children are concerned. The devices which our children spend time using should be broadening their minds, building their personalities and offering them good examples. These devices should not be corrupting them or extinguishing the flame of goodness in their hearts. Their friends should be of the type who will keep them on the good path. There are some children who have been brought to the slippery slope of destruction and perdition by their friends. Their parents were unaware that their children are hanging around with undesirable friends who took them to undesirable places or teach them bad habits.
Children are very responsive when we share advices with them wisely and gently. The obedience of our children which is based on love, respect and trust will be lasting while their obedience which is based on violence and cruelty will quickly vanish. The best approach to correct and educate them is to be lenient without being weak and be strict without being cruel.